Friday, November 04, 2005
Last night I was chatting with Dot about friendship. Prior to that I was talking to Wanqing and Eugene about it. So the issues that were discussed are such:
1) The disappearing acts that my friends performed after being attached, namely Tan Yun and Sze Jia. Perhaps they are busy. But I never believe that one can be so busy that they have no time for friends. Unless all the free time from school and family is spent with boyfriends. Alice can be considered as one performing such disappearing acts too.
Occasional meet-ups end up with, "What are you girls doing later? If there's nothing much, I would just go and meet XXX."
2) Friendship is more than a mere SMS in a few weeks. It requires effort to maintain it.
When was the last time I met up with them? The last time I met Sze Jia was during Dot's farewell at Crystal Jade. It's like she went overseas too. For Tan Yun, it was when Jude came to find Eugene and I happened to be there. It felt like it was Jude's girlfriend tagging along.
3) How can seven and a half years of friendship compared to anything?
At least in my own perspective. No offence to those who disagree.
4) Friends are not to be taken granted for.
5) I hate to be the one taking the initiative to arrange for meet-ups.
6) I'm not going to believe in anyone who says," I will never be like that when I get attached." So Anne and Alice, please don't tell me that.
Something out of point that we discussed: I dislike insecure
P.S: For those who think that they have been misunderstood. Do tell me. I'm willing to listen :)